The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark - Paperback

by Elana Auerbach (Author)

A #1 Amazon Bestseller in Marriage, Sexuality and Sexual Instruction

For twelve years, Elana Auerbach and her spouse struggled over sex. She tried everything. And nothing changed until she stopped trying to fix the problem and started building a practice instead.

That practice is The Sure Thing. A weekly relationship ritual so simple it fits into a real-life schedule. So effective it transformed not just her marriage but her entire relationship with pleasure, with her body, and with herself.

A Math major with an affection for discernment, Elana brings a uniquely structured, intentional approach to intimacy. By blending personal narrative with a practical methodology, she maps out how to make sexual satisfaction a reliable, consistent rhythm rather than a rare exception.

"Reading The Sure Thing is like having a wise, loving friend cheering you on toward more joy and connection." - Dr. Laurie Mintz, psychologist and author of Becoming Cliterate

This is not a book about techniques. It is a guide to building a sustainable, personalized pleasure practice that grows deeper over time.

Inside, you will learn how to:

• Release Sexual Shame: Discover what you actually want and let go of performance pressure.
• Meet Resistance with Play: Turn frustration into curiosity and deep emotional connection.
• Reverse the Drift: Create a reliable, grounded rhythm for intimacy for couples.
• The Solo Sure: Cultivate self-love and self-worth on your own terms, whether you are single or your partner isn't ready yet.

Part memoir, part spiritual reflection, part practical guide: The Sure Thing makes pleasure feel possible again.